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May 2009 
Have you been thinking more of the past or the future?
Posted on Feb 3rd, 2009
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Tim
Tim
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for February 03, 2009:
I think I have been spending equal time with each. I have spent a lot of time trying to look at the past and find what I can learn from it. I have also looked back to find some of the positive that I seemed to busy to celebrate. This has been a result of my wife's comments that our life has always been a struggle together. Sometimes we fight so many battles we forget to enjoy the mountain tops and we forget them.
I have also been thinking about the future. My wife and I have reconciled the supposed difference and renewed our friendship we had but have she is still longing to leave and I have told her that I respect the right of her soul to want more freedom. I have been trying to imagine what I would do in life alone without her, how I would manange the kids as a single dad. Today I was listening to a tape by Caroline Myss and she said a true mystique must face some loniless. Maybe this is my starting point.
Namaste
I have also been thinking about the future. My wife and I have reconciled the supposed difference and renewed our friendship we had but have she is still longing to leave and I have told her that I respect the right of her soul to want more freedom. I have been trying to imagine what I would do in life alone without her, how I would manange the kids as a single dad. Today I was listening to a tape by Caroline Myss and she said a true mystique must face some loniless. Maybe this is my starting point.
Namaste
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Please excuse my intrusion into your life, without knowing the facts, but at this point I do feel that your wife should seek counseling, and realize that she has responsibilities and commitments that she cannot, and should not, run away from. Effectively, she has made her bed…
Your children will grow up eventually, and free you both to have more spare time. In the meantime, you could plan pleasurable things to do together now. I sympathise very much with her desire to spread her wings, but she cannot do so just yet, and you are not doing her favours by facilitating her whims. She must, in my opinion, adapt herself as best she is able to the situation she finds herself in.
Sorry to be so harsh, but please do not indulge her in this way. Sit her down and discuss instead how you can both, as a couple, improve your lives. Together.
In all of life you will find things that you do not understand, be wise and don’t judge until you have walked in others shoes. If you disagree write not in harsh terms but in gentle ones. Your thoughts are the ones I had when I was angry but when anger subsides one realize the greater truth. I can not push her or anyone towards me or my postion. What you suggest may be true in many cultures but being so dogmatic will only create the opposite affect. I can’t make her do anything I can only be the empty vessel in todays events ready to be filled with more understanding
Peace