What was the most difficult promise you made?

The most difficult promise I made was the one that I take most serious.  That is the vows I gave to my wife.  Don't get me wrong they are also the most rewarding as well. But after you have lived with someone as long as I have you become familar with that person  and it is easy to see their faults or to feel their upsetness with your faults ( and I have a lot!).  What I think is the most difficult and rewarding is changing with them.  When you take vows with a person you start a journey together I believe you have two choices; one of the partners can lose themselves into the others dreams, or you can both journey together but also seperately.  In my marriage we have chosen the later.   So there have been times when we are in different places.  In some ways it requires you to constantly romance your significant other to get to know them better.  I become most aware of this at Christmas time.   It used to be I could land the best gift giving husband of the year trophy all the time but my as my wife works on her doctorate in pscychology she has changed and now the ideas that I used to have aren't as good or fit her.   On the flip side I have an intellectual stimulating conversationalist when ever she is home.  The fire and passion in her is extremely stimualting. But I must tell you it is not always easy.
shalom